

Sexual Mismatch
Sex is relatively easy when you are swept up in the glories of dating, engagement, and the wedding. By year two, three, or four of a...


The Intimacy Plateau
This is a pretty simple idea. Some people can just turn it on. Their partner is changing for bed, slipping down his jeans or unfastening...


Life on the Intimacy Plateau
In a previous article I discussed the intimacy plateau. Since then, quite a few couples have come in wanting to discuss this idea in...


Year 5 to Year 10
In the West, most of us believe in romantic love. Our culture builds an expectation in each of us that we should find that "special...


Love or "In Love"?
Many are the times I have heard these words: "I love her [or him], but I'm not in love, if you know what I mean." The speaker is...

The 4 Quadrant Approach to Leisure Activities
Struggles over the organization of leisure activities come to the surface in couples therapy. In some marriages, the couple does...